It is widely believed that women like to bicker and make snide comments about other women. This is true, we can be very nasty and catty. What is lesser known, is the fact that we can also look upon another woman and admire her looks, her persona, her nature and style. It’s not uncommon for women to “crush” on another female, but this doesn’t always mean what you think. This article explains what a girl crush is and gives examples of my own crushes!
The Girl Crush
When you hear the word “crush”, you think about sexual attraction to someone. Yes, this is true in general, but in terms of the girl crush, it usually just implies admiration for another woman, more so than others. It’s essentially just a soft spot for someone. You think they’re pretty, talented, lovely. It’s almost as if you want them as a best friend or sister. It does not imply you want to sleep with them or think of them sexually. Sorry lads, I know that’s probably not what you want to hear but alas, the girl crush really isn’t like that.
- Jenna-Louise Coleman
As you can see from the photo, she is very cute and pretty! I appreciate the fact that she is very attractive, but also, that she comes across as very talented at her profession, acting. I liked her in Emmerdale, I like her in Doctor Who as his new companion. She is engaging and believable, all the things a good actress should be. She also comes across as kind, level headed, funny and modest when interviewed No one likes arrogance or boring people, so when someone comes across as level headed and sweet, it’s refreshing and attractive. We’re of similar ages so this “crush” is more about the fact she may make a good friend and someone to hang out with!
- Jenny Frost
She is an ex singer from a late 1990’s girl band, “Atomic Kitten“. I was too young to appreciate her singer talents from that though, rather taking a shine to her when she became the face of a TV show called, “Snog, Marry, Avoid” in recent years. Each week, she would present the show with a glowing smile, a cheeky sense of humour, and yes, she is also very pretty! She’s the sort of woman girls want as an older sister. She’s fun, she appears laid back, a good laugh, caring and friendly. You know she’d look after you on a night out yet make sure you have fun and a few drinks too – just what every girl wants in a big sis!
So there you have it, the girl crush explained. It’s not about deciding you like women or wanting a relationship with one (though this differs from person to person!). It’s about appreciating another woman as talented, attractive, comes across as nice, friendly, warm and fun. You want them as a friend or sister, not as a sexual partner! It’s also not exclusive to girls, I know a few men who have secret man crushes! Patrick Stewart seems to be popular with many of the males I know….!