There is an age-old argument about whether it’s better to be single or in a relationship. I for one, think both have their pros and cons and there is no right or wrong answer. Being in a long distance relationship mens you may possibly have the best of both worlds. When it comes to being reunited, your mind-set changes and suddenly you have to think about having your other half back with you. This article looks at some of the fun themes of a long distance relationship, starting with the most important!
If you are anything like me, you like your bed, it’s big, soft, it’s warm and you get to lay in the middle, stretched out in a huge X shape taking up every inch of space all because you can! If you want to toss and turn, snore, use all the duvet and flip cartwheels, then you can, without fear of disturbing. You don’t have to worry about accidentally whacking him whilst he sleeps, keeping him up with noise or rolling him back to his side. Alternatively, you don’t have to be kept up by him either! As nice as it is to wake up to him, you get used to selfishly sleeping alone after a while!
It’s easier to go out and have fun with your friends, then come home at night and still have a quick talk with him after he finishes work in the evening before going to bed. During Periods when you’re both at home together, suddenly the way you use your time changes. You calculate seeing your friends, preferring earlier in the day, as nights are the only time you get to see your partner, because although they are home, they are still working full-time. You get x amount of weeks to make the most of being with them before you or they leave again and it’s something you are very aware of. This doesn’t mean you don’t go out with your friends, you just ponder about how often and for how long.
Appreciating Each Other
Having spent months away from each other with only texts, emails and phone calls for connection, it hammers home how nice it is to see them again. Unlike the odd weekend away from each other, months is a long time and it’s a relief and exciting to see again, more than when you are usually together. It helps you appreciate them all the more and you are particularly grateful for your time together, more so than when you see each other daily.
Him coming home for a few weeks provides him with a holiday break from his country of residence. He gets to visit his favourite places, see his friends and family and treat it as holiday, even if it is being at home. The same works for you going out to see him. The traveling works not only as a reunion, but also reasons for a holiday! Take these chances to go and explore and see new things, having a reason to travel doesn’t happen to everyone so make the most of it.
This is a little tongue in cheek observation of a situation, but these things do run through your head none the less. People would prefer not to have to be in a long distance relationship and it would be a lie to say it was easy, but as listed above, it does have one or two perks. If long distance ends up creeping up on you, don’t lose heart, it can work, you just need to try hard. You can also slowly see the few upsides!